FEELINGS III: ROLLER COASTER

I have been waiting all day to get home and write ... Yes , write because I like it and it helps me to think clearly . I am having a hard time ... life it is not always rosy! Finally, it seems that my bubble has burst and reality hit me a chunk . - Hey you , wake up ! Things are not what they seem ... (at last, at last I am crying ... I needed and  I could not do it before ) I am not in the mood because things are not going as I expected. But this is what I have to wait ! that things do not always go well! I must to wait that things go wrong to be prepared for it ... I was the queen of the world , since coming to Poland , it seemed that all my problems were gone : great work , great people , love , evil as ever ,but I did not care much , I had no complaints . And now either, everything is still wonderful. The problem as I have with myself ... Sometimes one can be your own enemy ... Something Iam doing wrong or not very well and I have to fix it. Because really, Szansa, in Dolina Milosci, Gantalcalá, my family, deserve it , deserve the best of me , for being my support during this time . My fear appears again, fear of failure ... Always the same : at first everything is great, then things change ... . and people forget me ... why do I have this damn hobby always wanting acceptance from others? Really, it is exhausting to want to love you all the world ... And although I can not change ... Always caring for others and wanting someone who cares for me ... Well, that is life. I want to send a message not pessimistic, on the contrary, I would say, that despite the problems I am really happy, it is normal to feel bad from time to time, we are humans, not machines, we can not always stay with a smile on our faces. But remember, you can always smile, do not ever stop! That is what the bad face of life has taught me. With a smile, life is otherwise. Now I am disappointed but not unmotivated. I proposed activities have not been as successful as I hoped. Well, I must work harder and better, find the reason and solution. Everything happens for something. But really, I want to do something worthwhile....You know, I feel better ... I recommend you write your thoughts because it really helps. 

Be happy my friends!!

DANCE AND FOOD IN BUKWICA!!

Yesterday, in Bukwica, we had a very busy day! We were dancing salsa and then, we made "Tortilla de patata" (Spanish omelet). Everybody enjoyed the day and I am really happy because little Magda, at last, wanted to stay with me (she do not trust in people easily). Here you can see a few pictures from yesterday!!

ALL ABOUT POLAND II: SEXISM

Since I arrived in Poland, surprised me a lot about their culture. One is the fact that men and women dance any style of music together. It can be rock , pop, house , popular and traditional songs ... Men and women always dance in couples and, in addition , they dance very well! This issue and many others I spoke with a guy at the wedding. He was surprised that I told him that in Spain, normally, men and women dance separately, and often, the man does not dance, just watches and drinks from the bar. This guy asked me why , if dancing is fun, and I said , many men think that dancing is not " men's business ". Because of this, we started talking about sexism . In Spain there is a lot of sexism , latin man can be considered sexist, though of course not always the case, but in general , we still have much progress towards equality between men and women. The way the Polish men treat women is different from Spanish men. As I said in previous posts, here is more matriarchal society than in Spain, but men believe they are in a duty to protect women by nature weak, and they believe that they have to work hard for their families, and women should care for children and home. Could say that is a very conservative society on the model of the Catholic Church. Yesterday, I was reading about this topic because I want to know what is the situation of women here in Poland. I could know that the number of victims of violence against women is very high but nobody wants to talk about this topic...

Stadístics:

Spain 2009: 55 women were killed by their husbands.

Poland 2009: 150 women were killed by their husbands. 

But there are not stadistics because there are not law, studies, research...Everyone is silent... I could read that this problem must be solved indoors, "when we talk about family there are no individual rights" (Pope John Paul II said this). Is for this reason,  there is no specific legislation on gender violence. And then, women can not do nothing... Furthermore, most of the time justify violence with the fact of alcohol. This is the sad reality. But, fortunately, not always is in this way. You can find very precious persons here in Poland. Just, I think, Poland must to fight for their rigths.

Sources:

http://polskaviva.com/2012/03/08/8-de-marzo-un-tulipan-y-no-te-quejes/
http://es.scribd.com/doc/84609563/Violencia-Domestica-Polonia
http://www.justiciaenlosandes.org/contenido/polonia-oculta-la-violencia-contra-las-mujeres-europa

1111 VISITS!! GRACIAS!!/ THANKS!!// DZIęKUJę!!

1111 VISITS IN JUST TWO AND A HALF MONTHS!!

Wedding!!

On Saturday, 19th of Octuber , Darek and me, we went to a wedding in Kutno, a village between Poznan and Warsaw. He had no companion , so he asked me and, of course, I said yes. After a journey of five hours , in various modes of transport , we reached our destination . At 16.00h the link started in a pretty church. How cold it was ! The bride obviously married in white, but I was surprised that she married in a short dress . Anyway, she was very pretty , with a style of 50-60' . During the ceremony, I saw that the Mass is the same as in Spain , except that here , you have to kneel a few more times ... I could count about four times the couple had to kneel before the altar. The music (organ and violin ) very nice , and even had a singer . The ceremony lasted more over than hour . Normal, but I just thought "we were going to catch pneumonia , but cold !" At Mass , participating children as altar boys , something I have not seen much in Spain , perhaps in southern of Spain but not for a wedding. When it finished, the couple and the guests left the church . And the guests , instead of rice, they threw coins ! What danger ! hahaha . Later, one by one, we approached to kiss and congratulate the couple. Three kisses , not two.

After the ceremony , a bus took us to the function room , outside of Kutno . Before entering, as a tradition , the bride and groom had to eat bread with salt and drinking vodka. After, the glass thrown back, for good luck . Then everyone took their places at the tables. Over a hundred people we went to the wedding. I met several friends Darek , all very nice! The food was abundant throughout the night . The only thing I am vegetarian and  I did not have many options, but it was fine. People ate and then,inmediately, got up to dance! Many dances , songs , games , great fun! I also tried homemade vodka and another vodka of 72 degrees! OMG!, I thought I was going to burn the throat ! But it was good. Unfortunately , I could not stay all night. About 2.30 am I went back to the hotel because I had a terrible headache (because of vodka?? I don´t know...) . But I think that dance, sing , eat and drink from 4.00 pm to 2.30 am is enough, do not you think? ;) It was great . I greatly appreciate having invited me to go with Darek to this wedding! I know no one more fun than Darek!! Dziękuję Bardzo!!

Congratulations Wojciech and Agniezka!!

                                                  Darek and me

In the next post, I will discuss in more detail aspects of Polish culture that I saw at this wedding! See you there!

NEXT SPANISH LESSON IN BUKWICA!!

This time, we continue Spanish classes learning about the colors. A very fun class and adults and children put great interest! Thank you! : D

Next day we will start salsa lessons in Bukwica and we will cook spanish food!! Welcome!!

THANK YOU ALL!!

Great detail that took with me my colleagues in Szansa ! I was provided with this diploma, for my perseverance, my smile and my positive energy during the workshop on racism and discrimination held in Leszno. In this diploma is written to the best in the world! hehehe. You are really great. I love you! But I mean, that this diploma, not just for me, is for all you were there, because you were very patient and understanding with me, I did participate in the activities and did not feel at any time outside the group. So, thank you very much to everyone for everything! See you soon!